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Remembering our Quasi-Mothers on Mother’s Day

Posted by on May 6, 2013 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

A few weeks ago, I asked my mom, “When is Mother’s Day?” She replied with her familiar phrase, “Everyday is Mother’s Day.” My Mom of course was saying that we should appreciate our mother everyday, and not just once a year (agreed). This made me think about all of the wonderful women in my life, the women who were like quasi-mothers to me, the women who over the years who taught me what a strong, independent, confident woman looks and feels like. If I think about these wonderful women, then mom was right – every day really could be Mothers’ Day.

My own mother is a very kind person who loves her children very much. Yet, it was many other women who proved to me that with the right support system every woman could have a beautiful well-kept home, prepare homemade delicious fast food, have a family and a career. I remember one quasi – mother who had a loving partner who was willing to work side by side with her whatever the task. Not because she “told him” to but because he trusted and respected her judgment, together they managed a beautiful home, successful business and an enormous blended family. Other quasi-mothers taught me the importance of education, community service and how to give without expecting anything in return. That people are more important than things and, that diamonds and roses are over-rated. The importance of carefully selecting our battles and, that loving-kindness can transform the roar of the loudest lion into a harmless kitten.

Each day we can learn, study, grown and change by watching these quasi-mothers who are teaching us things that own mothers only wish they could. Happy Quasi-Mothers’ Day to all the women who have touched our lives!

PS The other day when my daughter was home from college, I was sharing with her that I am not exercising enough. She responded in a sincere, kind and puzzled way a said, “I don’t know what the problem is, just do it.” More great advice from another one of my Quasi – Mothers!

Posted by on Mar 7, 2013 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Mastering the Message – Better Communication Better Life

Lisa Meyer Speaker and Author of Quotes for Kids

As my daughter turns 21 it seems like the perfect day to reflect on how we communicate with our children. I can remember long before she could formulate words I would “talk” to her as if she were an adult. As she got a little older I would create ways for her to learn and establish boundaries without the use of the word no. She was taught how to communicate the meaning of the word no respectfully (yes even to me) as I knew that during her lifetime that would be an important skill to have. The notion that she is or could be a princess was not part of my strategic parenting plan. Rather, that she was loved very much and with hard work, commitment and determination she could achieve her goals. I believed in her, and wanted her to feel belonged, worthy and confident which are essential building blocks for any young person’s life.

Communicating with teenagers is not as difficult as it is made up to be, it just takes a little more effort and patience. Long drives in the car harbored the perfect place for us to engage in conversations where I could discover what she was truly thinking and feeling. My goal was to listen closely to what she was saying. Ask good questions, so that I could share my experiences (and fears too) as a resource for us to grow closer together. As she shared stories about her friends, I told her what my dad often told me. Other people will let you down, I am your best friend. This was an important part of our attachment and bonding process. The goal was to make her as independent as possible while assuring her that I will always be there for her no matter what. Throughout our lives together we have both apologized for the wrong things that we have said or done. When the lines of communication were down, we always strived to rebuild our relationship, learn from it and move forward. The other options seemed futile.

We know that strong interpersonal relationships especially the relationships we develop with our children are vital to our well-being regardless of how old we are. Communication is the glue that keeps families together and strengthens our lifelong interpersonal relationships with our children.

Countless times throughout her lifetime, she has heard me say: communication is a beautiful thing! I wonder if she will say those same words to her children. Being her mom is a beautiful thing too.

Mastering the Message Better Communication – Better Life

Posted by on Feb 14, 2013 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

My dear friend Ruth was born February 14, 1915. It’s been nearly six years since she passed away, yet her love and kindness still linger very vividly in my memory, especially on Valentine’s Day, which was also her birthday. Miss Ruthie lived to be 92 years young. Today I am thinking about how she was able to show so much love to everyone around her. Today I miss our long conversations and how we would roar with laughter about her funny stories and experiences. Miss Ruthie lived through much of the great depression, so she was mindful of what it meant to experience and share love, rather than try to buy it or manufacture it artificially. It is in her honor today that I share our thoughts about what we believe to be true love.

1 Corinthians 13:1-13

If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. And, if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not love, if profits me nothing. Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; loves does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecoming: it does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things and endures all things. Love never fails;…but now faith, hope love abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Today is a day that I am remembering what love is, and how it was demonstrated to me through the spirit of a dear friend and a true Southern Bell. I do miss our long conversations, her boisterous laugh, and the way she would make me feel so warm and kind. I especially miss hearing her say: I love you too darlin! She meant it; I felt it. She truly strived to live each day present in the true spirit of love. Miss Ruthie mastered the message she had much – she had learned how to love.



Lisa Meyer Speaker and Author of Quotes for Kids

Mastering the Message Better Communication – Better Life

Posted by on Jan 28, 2013 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element.  It is my personal approach that creates the climate.  It is my daily mood that makes the weather.  I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous.  I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration, I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal.  In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person humanized or de-humanized.  If we treat people as they are, we make them worse.  If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.

           ~ GOETHE

As the author of Quotes for Kids, I love quotations and how words can be use to inspire others. As a graduate student studying the field of communication, I am learning about the concept of language and peace and conflict resolution. One of my favorite quotations, (shared above) seems to sum up the most important elements of what the author of the class textbook would describe as “the humanizing nature of language” and how what one says can be considered to be either supportive or harmful. Meaning, what we say and how we say it, is important, and is now considered a measurable and valid topic of study for linguistic researchers.

One of my previous instructors once said: “Just because an email can be sent across the country in seconds that does not mean it should.” Her statement makes me think twice before hitting the send button. It is a reminder of how important it is for all of us to navigate and master our spoken and written messages, and strive to communicate our thoughts in the best possible way. This task is not an easy one, it takes time, and more importantly it plays a vital role in avoiding conflict, and strengthening our personal and professional relationships. The emphasis on being peaceful and kind has been communicated for over 2,000 years, and yet current research suggests that the act of being kind and peaceful seems to be slipping away from our American culture. The last few sentences of Goethe’s writing really resonates with me. The 18th century philosopher Goethe so eloquently yet, firmly asserts:

In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person humanized or de-humanized.  If we treat people as they are, we make them worse.  If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.


Best wishes and be well,


Quotes for Kids Book

Posted by on Jul 24, 2012 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Quotes for Kids Book

Use this small formatted book as a catalyst to mentor “kids” of all ages! Just open it and start reading! The communication begins the moment you share Quotes for Kids and your time with someone you love!

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Posted by on Jul 24, 2012 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

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